Please Help Guide Me on My Journey
I have learned something disturbing over the last few months of trying to find new female friends. There’s an epidemic far worse, more damaging and more widespread than Covid or Monkeypox. This epidemic has a severe impact on dating and relationships. It’s also manifesting in our every day lives in ugly ways with complete strangers.
If you’re reading my Love Entry Chronicles at the bottom of each post, you will remember I’m attempting to fearlessly approach 10 women in 20 days. However, I have another more covert Mission that I’m also trying to complete as well.
I was at a coffee shop today. The beautiful woman who took my order had incredibly elaborate eye makeup that looked like the beginnings of a costume for a performance in Cats. She and I had an engaging conversation while she took my order. I got my drink, sat down and worked for about an hour.
Upon leaving, I walked back to the counter. She asked me how she could help me, and then I said:
“You are absolutely beautiful the way you’ve done your eyes. If you were not wearing that make up, you would still be absolutely beautiful. However, what is even more beautiful is your personality. Have an awesome day!
Her face and eyes lit brighter than the Texas sun. She thanked me, and I believe she was on the verge of tears. I walked out.
I do not frequent that coffee shop nor do I expect to ever see her again. Missing in her life was not a boyfriend or a date, or some guy like me flirting with her. What she was missing was ENCOURAGEMENT! And right now we live in a world that is virtually absent of it.
Yesterday, in a drive-through I frequent, I expressed to the women at the window, “I always enjoy seeing you in the mornings, because your beautiful personality is soooo infectious, and seeing you in the mornings makes me happy!.” She cried! She’s starved for encouragement.
So, I challenge all of you hopeless romantics, word smiths , authors, experts, bloggers, readers and writers of truth, for the next seven days everywhere you go seek out those souls who are starving for a morsel of encouragement and tell them something specific, honest and beautiful about them. This will change the world!
Love Entry #10
“I’m now thoroughly convinced Sarah #1 continues her minimal texting with me to go on my adventure. I’m sure we will still have fun, but I’m no longer putting the mindshare of romantic gestures into the trip.
5 of 10 day 10. The Lion roared and then whimpered off like a kitten. I did approach a gorgeous woman today who was probably too young for me, but I needed to get another one in to stay on target. I crashed and burned like like an enemy plane in a Maverick movie. That’s ok, I’m still in the game.
The challenge for me is not maintaining the fearlessness but finding potential prospects. I will work on putting myself in better situations.
I just started reading you, so I went back to the beginning to read an order. This is a great idea for a project, and I like how you’re documenting it.
When I turned 50 a few years ago I began a journey called
If not now when?
The tagline below it is
Tomorrow never comes.
My blog was highly engaged and followed and I considered the people in there my tribe. But something happened and I’m completely derailed. I took every post I ever wrote and made it private so that it appears as if the blog is empty.
Now I’m thinking I should put some of the posts back though because…
I miss it. I miss the people, and the engagement, the feedback and the encouragement.
I understand what you mean when you ask where the advice is or the feedback from the internet… When you have it it’s a wonderful albeit sometimes time consuming way of keeping you engaged among strangers who have your back better than some people in their own life do.
I realize this now as I’m reading some of your blog posts about your journey.
So hold on to your hat. Some of my posts will return to the blog which will touch on some relationship dilemmas. And keep going with your journey. I find that writing about things like this helps to process your own thoughts and hopefully help gain some illumination.
First, thank you for being the first person to comment. I had been giving up hope. Second, I look forward to reading your posts
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