Dating’s like a Horror Flick: There’s a lot of Ghosts.

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In the past 36 hours. I’ve been ghosted twice. I had plans to have dinner last night with woman on a first date, and at the last minute, she cancelled. This was the second time she has needed to “reschedule.” I saw her today briefly, and she was adamant we need to reschedule. I was pleasant and kind to her. I am not angry, and actually I was very tired last night. Now I have zero desire to try again. (Is that my bruised ego talking? Not sure.)

I asked another woman who I’ll soon be traveling with to call me tonight. I had something I wanted to ask her, and little did she know, I wanted to offer to do something incredibly sweet for her prior to our trip. She texted and said she would call me back shortly. Since her pattern of behavior is to not call me at night (that’s a whole suspicious story on its own, but I have my theories), I didn’t expect her to call. Sadly, I was right. What she will never know, after having time to consider it, I’ve decided not to spend the money (and it was good amount) on a deeply romantic special surprise. (Again, is that my bruised ego talking? Still not sure)

On a positive note, my breakfast date (first date as well) did show up as she said she would. Funny thing though, I was fully expecting her to cancel. It was a nice surprise when she arrived as planned. We had a great conversation, and things went well. We are scheduled to see each other again net week.

This has led me to a not so new or brilliant epiphany.

I,Hopeless Romantic, do solemnly swear that I will with all the woman I date in the future DO WHAT I SAY I’M GOING TO DO!!!

If I commit to something, I’m going to do it. I will ensure that I’m not one of the men out there ghosting woman. I want to be a person that the future love of my life can count on. My word will be more certain than death and taxes. This is one way in which I will demonstrate to woman that I respect them and their time.

Though I will run into more ghosts as I go through this journey, I myself will not be an apparition.

Love Entry #12

7 of 10, Day 15. I did go to breakfast with Nurse Betty #6 this morning. We had a nice conversation, and she seems very authentic and down to earth. We have plans to go out again, but if I’m being honest there was no spark. She’s crazy cute, and looks like she could be on the cover of Vogue Nurse, but after one breakfast, I’m not sure there is enough fire there for her to be my muse.

On another note, the Lion struck again! I have a business acquaintance (let’s call her Lucy #7) that called me today. She and I have not had much face-to-face interaction, and she called to ask me for a favor. I obliged, and provided her with information that would have been very difficult for her to obtain on her own.

I’ve always found her to be beautiful and intellectually sharp. If I’m being totally vulnerable, I’ve also felt she was a little out of my league. In the spirit of living fearlessly, I said to her, “Lucy, I would like to take you to dinner, not as business colleagues, but on a date. What do you say?”

There was a long pause. It was probably only a second, but it seemed like five minutes, and my negative self was already preparing for the worst. Then she said, “I would love to.” We put a date on our calendar for next week.

Here’s the crazy thing. A couple of months ago I randomly saw her at a restaurant. I walked over to her table where she sat with a friend and said “hi”. We talked for a minute, and I left. She told me today, that when I saw her back then, she told the friend that she wished I would ask her out. Who knew???

The Lion is the King of the Jungle. It’s good to be King!

I would love your thoughts!

The Dating/Relationship Epidemic No one is Talking About

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I have learned something disturbing over the last few months of trying to find new female friends. There’s an epidemic far worse, more damaging and more widespread than Covid or Monkeypox. This epidemic has a severe impact on dating and relationships. It’s also manifesting in our every day lives in ugly ways with complete strangers.

If you’re reading my Love Entry Chronicles at the bottom of each post, you will remember I’m attempting to fearlessly approach 10 women in 20 days. However, I have another more covert Mission that I’m also trying to complete as well.

I was at a coffee shop today. The beautiful woman who took my order had incredibly elaborate eye makeup that looked like the beginnings of a costume for a performance in Cats. She and I had an engaging conversation while she took my order. I got my drink, sat down and worked for about an hour.

Upon leaving, I walked back to the counter. She asked me how she could help me, and then I said:

“You are absolutely beautiful the way you’ve done your eyes. If you were not wearing that make up, you would still be absolutely beautiful. However, what is even more beautiful is your personality. Have an awesome day!

Her face and eyes lit brighter than the Texas sun. She thanked me, and I believe she was on the verge of tears. I walked out.

I do not frequent that coffee shop nor do I expect to ever see her again. Missing in her life was not a boyfriend or a date, or some guy like me flirting with her. What she was missing was ENCOURAGEMENT! And right now we live in a world that is virtually absent of it.

Yesterday, in a drive-through I frequent, I expressed to the women at the window, “I always enjoy seeing you in the mornings, because your beautiful personality is soooo infectious, and seeing you in the mornings makes me happy!.” She cried! She’s starved for encouragement.

So, I challenge all of you hopeless romantics, word smiths , authors, experts, bloggers, readers and writers of truth, for the next seven days everywhere you go seek out those souls who are starving for a morsel of encouragement and tell them something specific, honest and beautiful about them. This will change the world!

Love Entry #10

“I’m now thoroughly convinced Sarah #1 continues her minimal texting with me to go on my adventure. I’m sure we will still have fun, but I’m no longer putting the mindshare of romantic gestures into the trip.

5 of 10 day 10. The Lion roared and then whimpered off like a kitten. I did approach a gorgeous woman today who was probably too young for me, but I needed to get another one in to stay on target. I crashed and burned like like an enemy plane in a Maverick movie. That’s ok, I’m still in the game.

The challenge for me is not maintaining the fearlessness but finding potential prospects. I will work on putting myself in better situations.

Alone in a Desolate Sea of People

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As a manly man from the South, it’s hard to admit that I’m lonely. I don’t think I could utter those words to someone else. It’s not that I don’t have people around me, I do. As I reveal more about me in days and weeks to come, you will find that I’m surrounded by people and predominantly women. Sadly, that does not impact the loneliness.

My search for a companion is gaining clarity, but finding that compatible lost sole in this massive sea of deception is both daunting and exhausting, I am looking for a purely authentic, unwaveringly honest (at least with me), insanely adventurous, overly kind and stunningly beautiful woman who can challenge and inspire me to live my best life.

If I find her, I will give myself over to her as well as the world and all that’s in it. (As long she appreciates this gift and me.)

Oh, and she has to put up with me and be accepting of my baggage and relationship timelines. (More to come about that later.)

Is the description of what I want in a woman the rarest of unicorns?

Love Entry: #6 (Huge Update!)

When you last saw me, I was writing my blog. Sarah #1 was drunkly passed out in my bed and something bad may have happened to her. Fast forward to the next morning. I was up already on my computer working. She refused to tell me what really happened the night before. We did engage in a conversation that was somewhat awkward. (The conversation was probably premature and I think I handled it awfully.)

I have neglected to mention that in the next month Sarah #1, and I are supposed to travel on a 4 night excursion together. I’ve already bought her plane ticket. I tried, though very poorly, to explain that I don’t want drama, I don’t want lies, and I only want to chase after a woman that wants me to chase her. I think I failed miserably in getting my points across.

She did tell me, “I want you to chase after me.” She also said,” I was the most intriguing person she had met in a long time.” I have an uncanny ability (next level, scary mind reading type mentalist abilities) to tell when people are not being completely honest. Most people don’t believe me, but it is an incredible gift, it makes me highly effective at my job, and it’s an exhausting curse because people lie ALL THE TIME!

I think those 2 statements were mostly honest, but I know she’s not being honest about other things. Should I even care at this point? Here’s my problem. 1) I kinda like this girl. She fits a lot of what I’m looking for. 2) I’m not sure I can ever really trust her, as I don’t believe she can ever be 100% honest with me. (Insert massive sigh and slight dejectedness here!)

This is making me withdraw from her.. WHAT DO I DO?